B, I'm not at all that your H contacted you. I don't think he wants to push you too far away. You have been his family for a long time. OW is just someone he's trying out. MLCers do this. I agree with snodderly about pausing before you respond. You are less likely to regret what's said. Your response was genuine, kind and loving. I'm guessing that you feel better about your communication today then you did on Sunday. Keep your heart open and your head out of it. In other words, silence your ego. It's so hard to do, especially when we think we're being taken advantage of. Truly, you won't be. Continue to show your H how you expect to be treated by keeping boundaries in place. Speak firmly when you need to, but always with kindness and honesty. If you do this I believe your H will see the real you instead of focusing on any negative events. It can be so hard, especially when your heart aches. I'm still learning this too. I just know that practicing what I've said above just feels better. I hope you experience the same.
