Oh, I'm pretty sure I don't want a divorce. I filed because he kept saying he wanted me to, and this way I have more input on the timeline and process, instead of if he filed. Part of me felt like the reason that he was pushing for it so hard is that 3 months ago (when he first started saying he wanted one), he was on the brink of a fantastic new job, in the best shape of his life, etc etc. Like, I feel like he thought he could "trade up", so to speak. I pleaded with him to try MC, individual counseling, anything, but he was really determined to get a divorce.
Now that I know about this illness, I'm less certain of that initial interpretation.
Originally Posted By: Dubious Hills
Also, I don't know if NOT getting a divorce is an option -- when he's occasionally expressed nostalgia or whatever, it's normally in the context of a larger conversation about questions he has about the process. He seems pretty sincere in his desire for one.
Originally Posted By: Dubious Hills
Except, y'know, when he's not.
I would look deep at why you are filing, looking at your words, it just doesn't seem to match up with filing. Just my view...
M46,W41 D16,D18 M22,T25 BD 11/12 W moved out 01/13 Piecing 10/13 Divorced 01/15 "Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can." UrWorthy
