We have been married for 15 years. 2 daughters,13 and 7.
We had a fight Jan 2012 (it was a rough morning getting my D7 off to school and we ended up getting into a fight and I did say "I f$*!%ing hate you. We were also having tension due to trying to buy a house and couldn't agree on one). I ended up apologizing but H continued to sleep on the couch. We were very standoffish and H ended up moving out March 2012.
After about 1 month I asked if there was someone else and he said Yes. I'm still on the fence whether there really was someone else because he was still coming over every am,pm and weekends (I could see possible EA and maybe brief PA??). Around May of 2012 I set up that he would only see our D's one day during week and one day on weekend because I felt he was "having his cake."
At times though, we would do things as a family, go out to dinner, holidays and we even went out just us a couple times and with group of friends a couple times. We would have R talks (initiated by me) a couple times. His bottom line (from what I can interpret) is that he doesn't have a problem doing things as a family, he feels that we would be able to "be good" for a while but would eventually "end up here again" and that he doesn't feel like I have any goals beyond my current work and education situation (I am a RN with a Bachelor's degree, he is completing his Doctorate).
Around Jan of this year I felt that we were getting along good and we would have convo about our jobs, goals, everyday things, things going on in the world and I felt that even though there was no physical contact (not even holding hands) things were going better.
This Easter we were spending the day as a "family" and I suggested being intimate. He then stated I was making him uncomfortable and that if we were intimate I would "throw it in his face later on." That was when I decided to myself (but didn't speak it to him) that I would no longer play "family."
I limit my convo with him when he comes to visit our D or come pick them up. I don't text him about mundane things and we haven't done things as a family.I feel like we are strangers now.
I definitely am GAL. I do things on the weekends with my daughters and my friends. I've been getting our house in order/organizing.I'm thinking about working on my Master's degree although I'm not sure if I want to take this on or if I'm just doing this because of him;although this is not a new thought for me.I've contemplated it for several years now. I feel much better about myself and am not a blubbering mess now although I still have moments of crying,etc.
