Dont know what to do...

[Cianna]

I had this whole post typed ut and then lost it!!! LOL

One more time...

Yes, my GALs are based on my husbands complaints. One of them, my "treatment of people" was something he had been saying for years, but would confuse me as to when it was appropriate. Finally, I just realized that its just not worth it to get worked up about things.

At this point, I can hang out with friends.. I can walk my horse, (cant throw my saddle right now), I can read, I can take a drive.. I really need to just get out of the house. One of my 180s FOR ME, is independence. I am very co-dependent, never lived on my own, and I need to work on that. Even if its go to the library for a couple hours to read...

We have one bank account that I have access too, a very low limit CC that he pays, he has three accounts to himself. One is his CC, his stock account and his savings. Ive never questioned or cared, he has been the sole income for us, for the majority of our relationship, as such I never worried about the accounts.

I have a friend who is an attorney, Ive sent him an email. He said he will run it by one of his partners that specializes in family law.

Im 42, he is 40. We've been together 18 years, and married 14. Ive seen these red flags before, they center around our chosen lifestyle of an open marriage. In the past we've closed our marriage, resolved our issues and moved on. This time he is not interested, has cited multiple reasons for the divorce and is now living monogamously with his GF.

He has 3 other big issues, 1. Our lifestyle - I have no problem closing our marriage. 2. I came out as gay in '05, long story, but I honestly could care less about that. 3. My medical issues.. I have several chronic medical conditions including Fibromyalgia, kyphosis, scoliosis, degenerative bone disease, and blown discs.

A couple times he had said, "If this goes bad (regarding his current GF) I cant do this anymore..." Always backing it up with, "If you make me break up with her I will hate you forever and we are done."