Not sure when you were last active on the board fixer, I think we have a bit of a changed mantra here.
We are all here to help save ourselves and if in doing so and becoming the best person we can be through the process and it ends up saving our Ms, then that is a bonus.
From your postings, you seem to have a great way of coming at life. That will serve you well in the future.
Even though the D is forthcoming, do you really feel it is the end? Are you certain right now, that you would not give your W a chance, if she came to you wanting to start working on your R?
