I am getting better at detaching and not letting W's behavior run my life. Monday night she went to gym as usual and called from gym that she was going to go out with a GF afterwards. Fine, I said. We've been watching Game of Thrones on Monday nights. Normally I would have waited for her. But last night, I started watching without her. She came home when I was already 20 minutes into the show. She wanted me to start it over again so she could see it from the beginning. Again, normally this is what I would do. Instead I told her no, and I recounted briefly what she had missed. We then sat and watched the remainder of the show.
Why is this good detachment? I didn't start brooding over what she was doing -- instead I did what I wanted to do, watch the show. Second, I was not over-concerned about telling her no and putting my wants first. This is also somewhat of a 180 for me -- being more dominant in the relationship.
I realize it's not a big deal, but these little things add up.
