but I am seriously starting to think that no amount of DB will save the M. Theres just too much damage from the past.
It's not that DBing doesn't work, but how the LBH applies it to his stitch. You still have your focus on her, instead of you. You are dancing to her song!
I have heard of some crazy excuses given to LBH's, but leaving b/c of tobacco use? Pllllease!!
Will you listen to me? She is putting your faults in the spotlight so that you don't see the real reason she's wanting out of the M. Why doesn't she just come out and tell you? B/c this way, she comes away with all the blame on you. You're the bad guy. She can't trust you? Yet, she's been the one to have A's.
She really has you right where she wants you. I am predicting that the next thing is you'll offer to be nothing more but her best friend (hoping to pull her back in), and being just friends is exactly what she wants. It's not what you truly want, b/c you want her to be much more. So when the LBH agrees to the "just friends" zone, it causes a lot of frustration on him when she doesn't come around to his expectations.
It's time to really make up your mind to show her what it would look like to not have you in her life. What do you have to loose?
Detach, get your focus on you, and GAL. This is the biggest part of DBing, and if you don't apply that biggest part....then how can you say that no amount DBing will work?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
