I agree with sandi, treat this with WAW in A. fortunately, it's only been couple of months that you found out about the phone call. In my sitch it was a year after the IDLY bomb til I found out my W's EA. The EA by that time was full blown and the cycle keeps repeating itself because my W is so addicted to OM.

I suspect she will go underground with this contact. Are you guys still living together? IMO you need to set some boundaries.

me40; W43
M18; T~20
D18; S13 & S3
bomb 5/9/11
EA busted 4/30/12; 9/4/12; 4/29/13; 6/10/13 same OM

Separated 4/1/14

"Even a flicker of light will shine through darkness-12/25/2012"....better days ahead.