"She'll see that at some point. Whether or not that means anything regarding R is completely unpredictable, but she'll see further proof that my changes are real and weren't just to stop D from occurring. No person or thing (or event) will get in my way of becoming PatientMan."

I love that attitude PM! This is about you becoming a better person. A by product of that is a chance to save your marriage.

M 37 W 30
S 7
Together 10 years
Married 9 years
BD: 12/12/12(W filed same day)
I moved to apartment 1/11/13
W and S moved to MIL 1/11/13
Peicing: 6/3/13
Reconciled: 7/2013
BD2: 4/20/16
still working on it