So I went away for Memorial Day week to visit family. I got back yesterday. Since our last confrontation, He said he would stay away from the OW; however, I wasn't gone more than 3 hours and he met her for breakfast. Yes I had him followed. I stopped after this. I called a few times.

The first day to ask him to move out while I was gone. He pretty much ignored this request.
Day Three - I called no one answered or called me back.
Day Four - I called again because we had a financial issue that I could not resolve from where I was and he needed to take care of it. He said he would. The call was short and to the point.
Day Five - I called to check on said financial issue but only talked to my stepdaughter who said she didn't know where her dada was.

I stopped trying at this point. I received no texts or calls from him during the entire trip.

Unfortunately for him one my friends saw MY CAR at her house this past Sunday for a few hours. MY CAR!!!!!! I was so mad. I did not confront him and he still does not know I know.

Last night I told him I wanted to start the divorce process. I have to - nothing is changing. Our relationship isn't really getting better and when he took my car I found that to be a huge betrayal. I don't want a divorce but I don't want to be a doormat. I am tired of looking the other way when he does stuff like this. I told him I couldn't live this way anymore.

I told him I would be in my room (our old room). He has slept in a different room for months. He said to be me - for now its your room until we figure out how to make it our room. Ok. Denial?

So this morning I call to setup the initial consultation with the mediator. I have to call him for his schedule. I was weak and told him I don't want this. I know it was bad because I was looking for the "neither did I" response. I didn't get it.

I am so hurt. Last night I didn't get what I needed and not this morning either. I did make the appointment but it isn't for two weeks. So my questions......

Is this now the time for the "After The Last Resort" Technique. If so, how does this work practically? I mean I go home from work then what?