I noticed a recurring phone number. This person has called my wife several times (even several times a day)and they talked for up to 2 hrs. Including midnight calls. I'm devastated at what seems to be obvious.
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So I "gently" asked her about the number during a phone call with her. She admitted that it was a guy that she works with but said that "it was nothing". Well, IMO, receiving a call from another man at 4am is definitely something. She said that she just needed to talk with someone.
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I told her that I trusted her and I didn't think she would do anything like that.
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It's possible, but deep down I don't believe her to be that kind of person.
I wasn't "that kind" of person, either, but I still had an EA. It has only been a couple of months since you discovered the phone activity.
Women don't walk away from a M b/c they read a personality book! But they do tell their H's the same cr@p your W has told you about needing to find herself, etc.
Could she be lying? If she can cheat, she can certainly lie.
She didn't have to tell you much of anything b/c you were too quick to tell her you trust her and didn't believe she would ever do anything "like that". Whenever you have evidence staring you in the face and you give her an open door to continue inappropriate behavior, you're pretty much sticking your head in the sand. Did you not find it odd timing that she would want to leave just as you confront her about the midnight & 4:00 am calls?
IMO, you need to handle this as having a WAW who is in an A. No contact of any kind. Let her wonder what you are thinking, feeling, and doing. Stop with the temp checks.
You said you were assuming you were in the LRT, so what type of action would apply?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
