So snodderly...I couldn't just ignore it. Rejection and silence is hard...and to do that to another person even one who has treated me very badly....I just didn't have it in me.
So I opted to send a text to H that simply stated "H, I got your email. I am really sorry you are having problems at work. I hope you are okay. I know that you are a very intelligent man and will figure things out. I am always here to listen, if you would like, but advice is not something I am able to give you. Please do take care of yourself." He did respond almost immediately "Ok then. Thanks. You too take care."
High road...I want to keep that course, and being an ignorant biotch is not in me...besides, how can I ever show H my changes and that I do care somewhat with ignoring all his contact.
I do agree that he was trying to rope me in his drama...and this could have very well led to some drama about us, OR...which scared me as I am not in a state to handle that right now.
So, others may disagree, but I feel that was my way of showing loving from a distance...maybe I am wrong, but I also need to be my best self, and I feel I did that with my response.
BombOctober 2012- OW 11/28/12 -H still denies Separated 11/29/12 Own place 12/12/12 Confessed OW/EA/PA 2/2/13 Oct 2013 - I knew I was done Jan 2014 - Anticipating the rest of my life