Found this on another thread. Having points broken down like this is very helpful to me.

Most important skills:
1) Validating a person's feelings rather than their actions
2) Making change that makes YOU a better person rather than doing it as a ploy to get the other person back.
3) GAL so you are a stronger and more interesting person
4) Learning about the dynamics of men and women relationships
5) Patience

On a side note...in regards to #4. Amongst many other things over the last year I recently read "Married Man Sex Life Primer" by Athol Kay. Are you aware or know much about this book? It has interesting points of the Alpha/Beta dynamic in a relationship, which I believe I need to be cognoscente of in my sitch. But I think it pushes the boundaries of being an ***hole, and it certainly has some contrasting opinions to DB.

Anyone have any thoughts on this book?

M-38
W-32
D7, S4
M-10
BD-May '12
S for 1 month-June '12
Reconcile, Piecing