...or go into a full blown crisis including EAs and/or PAs, is the fact of whether or not he or she had 2 or 3 relationships during their teen years. He said that falling in love and having one's heart broken during this formative period is important to the development of a strong, healthy sexual identity. And if the person had an unresolved problem back then, he or she will have to live thru it and face it later in life.
I think the part bolded above is somewhat subjective, but I do think there is something to that.
My own stbx's experience is, as far as I know, that she had one "primary" R through her teen years. At one point, she actually cheated on this guy with his best friend, during that R and she claimed to have been remorseful about it. I think it was the same guy who she eventually got back together with, and he ended up with a disabling neck injury and she stuck with him for a while before eventually moving on from him.
So on point would be that stbx likely has no strong basis for her own R development that isn't either untrustworthy or otherwise somehow co-dependent in some way.
