I feel so helpless and hopeless.It's been 15 months since H left and I still feel this way at times.
Please talk a little more about your timeline. You said your H left 15 months ago, have you been S'd ever since? Any attempts to reconcile? Do you feel your H is a WAS or MLC? Why? Is an affair involved? The more info we have on your sitch the easier it is to offer advice.
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I made a choice in April not to play "happy family" and I don't know where to go next.
April of this year or last? Up until that point had you been acting as a "happy family" ever since S? Since April what have you been doing differently? How has your sitch changed since then?
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Up until that point we would go out to eat as a family, sometimes spend weekend days together and spend holidays together.When H would come over to see the kids, we would have conversations about work,world events,etc.
Well this can be good in the respect that it reminds him of what he's missing, but it can also be bad in the respect that he may be "cake-eating"- participating in an affair while also carrying on as a "family man" and getting the best of both worlds (in his mind).
