No matter if it is an obsession, an EA or a PA, it all hurts!
That sure is a big truth.
If I do my math right... I would have to say that I let the A's (which I'm positive were primarily, if not only, EAs; including female and gay friend EAs) affect me for about 2.5 years. During that time, some of them ended, but even those ones still bothered me.
I finally "got over" it. It appears that pretty much every A has ended now, as far as I know. stbx might still be (is) in contact with them to some degree, but she's not obsessing over them any more. They truly appear to be "just friends" now. The fact that she is actively dating (in a more "traditional" sense) now, truly does not bother me. I can't say that it's not entirely because I have moved on, although that certainly has some bearing on things. It's just that an A is IMHO, "ugly".
So as Linda mentions, As hurt.
That said, your W's interest (obsession) with the ta-boy life and family (his pregnant W) could be along the same realms of her reading those fantasy books or people who watch those reality TV shows.
Eventually it will not bother you like it does. Try to keep focused on more important things. It really does seem like progress is being made and your focus on your W's fantasy will continue to drive you crazy.
