Wild Horses (couldn't drag me away)

[RosaLinda]

Today W and I were talking about the party we went to yesterday. She lamented the fact that the hostesses Dad, a lovable guy who was at the party, has serious health problems related to lifestyle choices that he just refuses to change. W then went on to say "but at least he's a happy person", and how one can do everything right health wise, but still not "be happy". 

(gosh I'm beginning to hate this silly idea of "being happy", like you either always are or always aren't...) :rolls eyes:

So... figuring this is an open door, I say...

Do you consider yourself a happy person?

W: At times. I know I have some issues and things I need to work on/figure out. I figure something's gotta give soon.

I could hardly believe my ears!

Me, In a very matter of fact manner: "That's what I figure." 

Then after a short pause, I went on to say that I believe everyone needs to figure out their own happiness.

Great job of validating, FY, great conversation. 

I don't agree with your W, that doing everything right healthwise would necessarily make a person happy, but more along the line you said, that everyone needs to figure out their own happiness. And it helps to look at the good, to be grateful for what we already have, and to trust in God. 

My H is a negative person. He claims he has a "Russian soul" and always sees the bad in everyone. He's been too old, too poor, too sick his whole life. I remember him wishing we had a maple tree about 20 years ago, but it was "too late" to plant one. It would have been mature already!!

How great that your W sees she has some issues she needs to work on! But are you apprehensive that she thinks something's gotta give soon? It might be wonderful!