"There's an MLC site that closely mirrors DB'ing, I signed up for their emails and got one today that was talking about how it takes the MLCer 2-7 years to emerge from MLC. "
That's rough AS. I just can't imagine. Much respect for folks that can stand that long. I thought my W is MLC, but I don't think she is. She has depression and my flaws just magnified tremendously then you add OM in the mix voila here comes Newman the bad guy. There's a lot of positives this past weekend but I don't believe them anymore--how long will that last? Until the EA starts again.
"So even though 2 years may seem pretty final to you, it's actually not unusual at all for it to take at least that long before things start to turn around (I'm sure there are a lot of new readers that are reading this and groaning right now, LOL!)"
The sitch has been 2 yrs but in reality I think my W cut contact with OM IDK maybe 2 mos at most? So every time around she starts her EA the sitch start all over again.. If only she can give me a solid yr of no contact with that low life OM, that would make a difference. I feel like im bill Murray in that movie Groundhog Day every time she starts her EA. Oh well, I'm ready either ways...I have a L if she files and I have list of solution based MC if we reconcile. Of course I'd rather have the latter
Newman
me40; W43 M18; T~20 D18; S13 & S3 bomb 5/9/11 EA busted 4/30/12; 9/4/12; 4/29/13; 6/10/13 same OM
Separated 4/1/14
"Even a flicker of light will shine through darkness-12/25/2012"....better days ahead.
