Hi Labug, I was going to agree with you: Yeah, XH is an adult and is making choices...
But then it occurred to me that he is not an adult at the moment. Not mentally.
He is going through an extreme trauma/crisis. She should be able to tell that something is seriously wrong with him.
She does not. She continues to manipulate and self-serve.
But enough about her.
I am miserable at the moment. I finally filed for CS and got the assessment back. The amount XH claimed for income resulted in a cut of $150 per week off the amount that he had just started paying voluntarily for the last 2 weeks - which itself was $100 less that the amount the mediator tried to get him to pay for the kids. .
He stopped paying the bigger amount immediately. And now i am really in a hole after having budgeted his payment into our next 2 weeks' bills.
And he is crowing over the outcome: "See what happens when you get lawyers and the government involved? YOU LOSE! If you think i'm going to pay you more than i have to in terms of CS, just so you can pay your expensive lawyers, you're WRONG".
