It's okay to feel the way you do. Go with those feelings. Accept them. Just because right now you feel done doesn't mean you can't change your mind later. I've heard the expression on this board "take your feelings for H and put them in a box on the shelf to go through later". You may be exhausted now. Take a break from DB. Concentrate on you and the kids. Forget about H for a while. You may change your mind. Or you may not. You get to make the choices now and that is empowering.
None of us were perfect in our marriages. But that doesn't give someone a green light to leave the family and have an affair. Marriage is a about trust, love, communication, doing the right thing. It's about working at it not walking away from it.
Hang in there. Just worry about you and the boys for now. Let H go blow in the wind, as Snodderly would say.
WH
AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012 Two kids, one dog D Final 6/18/14 J marries OW 1/24/15 "No matter where you go, there you are"
