I'm so sorry GM. I can relate to so much you have said. I had a dream last night that H started to "wake up" and wanted to reconcile. Again, he was the H I knew and loved so much. In my dream his SIL who "likes" OW was telling him he was not treating OW fairly and that she was crying her eyes out. I remember shouting "Hello...I'm the wife here!! Does anyone remember that?" I felt good after waking from that dream but back to reality where H hates my guts and can't wait to be rid of me.
It hurts. It hurts badly. I wish I had some strong words of advice to make it go away, but I can't. I can only let you know I'm here for you as are so many others on this forum. You have a right and responsibility to grieve what is lost. We will grow and blossom from this experience. I am sure of it. If our marriages are saved then that's even better. If not, there are still good things in store for us. I do firmly believe that. God always has a plan and when he closes a door, he opens a window. I have experienced that more than once in my life.
(((GM)))
WH
AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012 Two kids, one dog D Final 6/18/14 J marries OW 1/24/15 "No matter where you go, there you are"