I understand where u r at. I am there too. Limbo. It's been about a year from first BD from my H & we have been separated the last 7 months.
The best advice I can offer is G.A.L.!!!! That is the one thing that has helped me most. I figure if H is in la-la land and has not filed for a D then he is still confused.
Meanwhile I decided to "fake it until I make it"- meaning force myself to GAL even when I really didn't want to.
And what do you know, my mind-set is very slowly starting to change. I threw I great party at my house last weekend & had a lot of fun. It led me to believe that I AM going to be okay, no matter what.
How long have you been married? HOw old are your kids?
Hang in there...as you realize this journey is very, very long. ANd, it is possible that before your/my H comes out of their fog that we mayb decide that we don't want to be with them any more.
Or, they may start to realize that they really do miss their wives & regret decisions that have been made.
Each of us has to decide how long we are willing to STAND. I am starting to wonder....
GOod luck. And LIVE FOR TODAY!
M- 18 T-21 S-14,11 & 10 BD 6-18-2012 (OW-EA) H moved out 11-3-2012 10-5-13 Me- I want a divorce. I want to move on w my life. 11-25-13 Jointly filed.
