So have you decided to do anything? This is the same problem I struggle with every day as we don't have kids either. We don't have a reason to see each other than some of his mail I still get here.
Hi looking. Thanks for telling your story. I'm still fairly confused. Some days I really believe that no contact is the best. Other days I start questioning it. Last Friday I did email her just to ask how her Memorial Day weekend went. The conversation was pretty neutral but I still seemed to come away from it with negative/hurt feelings. I guess because I'm STILL not used to her acting in such a distanced/cold manner. Maybe that should be my lesson to leave her alone!
This Friday is her birthday. Sounds strange but I really wish it wasn't. I feel like I HAVE to at least text or email wishing her a happy bday, but at this point I don't even want to initiate anything. I guess I'm scared what she'll think if I don't tell her happy bday. (I can't believe that she has this power over my feelings...although I know it's not her...it's me allowing these feelings. During our marriage I never felt this way!)
Originally Posted By: stilllookingup
Anyways... so the memory started haunting me again lately as I'm giving him the time and space. What if I don't initiate the contact? What if he is misunderstanding about where I stand...
These are the exact feelings that I start having when we haven't had contact in awhile.
Me:38, Wife:36 M:8 T:13 No kids Bomb:3/10/13 W moved out:3/30/13 Started D paperwork: 10/14/13 D final: 12/30/13 To a future of love and happiness...
