h called to swap vehicles, he brought his t-top camaro which he rarely lets me drive. He was smiley/shy when he was dropping it off. I asked him if it was aobut letting me have a nice ride, he said it was about convenience.
Then later, back at our house he offered to make me a coffee, came out with a light snack (crackers & cheese), and then cookies too. We briefly sat with his parents (divorced but friends).
It sure was nice to have a nice "moment"... as opposed to all the "work, work, work" and irritability that I usually get from him.
Baby steps?
Did you thank him for these nice moments and actions? If yes, then how? If not, you should have! Reward positive behavior.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
