My WAW story

[stilllookingup]

Hi JRG,

So have you decided to do anything? This is the same problem I struggle with every day as we don't have kids either. We don't have a reason to see each other than some of his mail I still get here.

When we broke up once (before getting engaged) I could tell my initial pursuit didn't work at all and he went deep into his cave and didn't want to have a contact with me at all so I stopped it right away. I was in my country, he was here. I didn't contact him at all for 2 months or so. The first contact I made via chat was to just say hi, and he seemed overly excited to hear from me. I kept it casual and I told him I was going to U.S but seeing him was not the purpose.

After that I didn't contact him at all for another 2 months. This time I told him I was coming to U.S in a week or so, and he told me to have a safe flight. I was crushed. So I said w/o even thinking "You don't want to see me at all?" And he said "The last time we talked you said you were not coming to see me..." I don't remember what I exactly said to deny that but I must have said "That's not true" or something and he quickly said "ok never mind then! (really excited)" and he asked me for all the travel details. I flew, saw him, reunited and he proposed to me a couple of months later when I went to see him again in U.S.

I still grilled him about this after we got married. "What would you have done if I hadn't brought up meeting you again?" I know I shouldn't have but it bothered me somehow ever after we were married.

Anyways... so the memory started haunting me again lately as I'm giving him the time and space. What if I don't initiate the contact? What if he is misunderstanding about where I stand like the last time..?

So I guess what I'm trying to say is although your cousin's opinions might be against "As if" I kind of understand it especially because of my past experience. You know your W more than anyone. Try to remember how she acted when she went into her cave.