Getting Uncomfortable

[RosaLinda]

"I have realized that things might be becoming too comfortable. H being a live in MLCer who doesn't spew often, and who's behavior doesn't dramatically differ from pre-bomb behavior gives me an illusion that all is "as usual", that all is "comfortable".

H even has been making "future" comments... as in "what I want to do to the house in the future...", and "I have realized I could never live in Canada again..."

I have no idea what if anything these comments mean to him, or what they could mean to me/us. But the meaning I do pick up is the possibility that this status quo could continue indefinitely. Because its familiar, its easier than some other choices, because its comfortable.

So I feel I need to get uncomfortable. Because I don't want a continuation of this current state.

I'm not sure yet what this will mean for me. Pushing my limits, edging out of my box, growing - with all the associated pains. Getting uncomfortable."

Boy oh boy, that sounds like my relationship with my H, between BD 1 and 2. I thought things were okay, just sort of cool, but thought he was slowly getting over his MLC. And after his second EA was over last summer, I stupidly thought he was back to my beloved H. But now I see that our relationship was more like "friends with benefits" in his eyes, and now...no benefits. Not much friendliness either

Do you feel like your H is too comfortable with the staus quo also? Is the future shake up for you or for him, Mz. J? Both probably I guess. I was sort of thinking that my H and I will just muddle along as long as I can stand it (unless the Russian Tramp shows up again -- that would shake things up a bit LOL!) until he wakes up and goes into the next stages of MLC. I'm not liking your statement " the possibility that this status quo could continue indefinitely." Is that common? Or do you just want to hurry things up?

"They both signed up, paid up, and attended the class. But only 1 does track, which unfortunately conflicts with the trip. So DECISION MAKING TIME for S16. Other S16 leaves on the trip tomorrow - will be odd to have them apart. State is this Fri & Sat.

Gee that's terrible. Hard decision for S16, poor kid. I bet both are REALLY important to him.