things went south

[BC39]

A sincere thanks to everyone who posted over the weekend.

Bond. Man, I can't even tell you how much I appreciate your advice. I was just about to get home Friday night and W was about to leave for her sisters when I read your reply on my phone at the side of the road. I've been so emotional the last few days I couldn't think straight and your reply helped more than you know going into the convo with my wife when I got home.

I understand and agree with every point you made.

"Then we got that text Monday night from OMW and W reverts back to "things aren't going well, I'm still not attracted to you". Its almost like she's running away because of possible guilt and fear."

It's a little of that AND the fact that you confronted her about it. You seem to pass it off like it wasn't a big deal, when it's big to her. She's still in the phase of not knowing what she wants. So she's trying any option EXCEPT one that includes you. You are going to have to hold off on accusing her or confronting her about anything because that's when her guard shoots back up again.

I agree completely. My reaction was due to an unfortunate miss understanding with OMW . To clarify; OMW initial message gave me the impression that W sent OM a topless picture of herself. My W promised after BD last year that she didn't do anything like that. So after I received that text from OMW I went into that convo with W wondering what else she hasn't told the truth about leading up until now. It turns out after speaking to OMW further later that evening that it wasn't a topless picture, she was fully clothed.

W and I resolved this ^^^^over the weekend.

We had a long talk. It's was probably the most honest and forthcoming talk we've had in a very long time. We both still want to work on the M. I will post all the details shortly.