One thing I have learned is that "rehearsing" (which I did and still do) is not helpful, to the dicussion at hand, or to my PMA...with MLC'ers there is just no way to "prepare" it seems.
It took me quite a while to get this.
MWD and others talk of having a "beginner's mind", which is hard to do since we were trained by years of M how our spouses are likely to respond, etc. But the "beginner's mind" is helpful, less rehearsing the better I have found.
T^2
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
