A Feral Cat, Puzzling 2

[RosaLinda]

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I really like the "hook" one. I am really good at this list, providing that I know a discussion is coming and mentally can prepare for it. Where I struggle is when something comes up that pushes my buttons, my heart rate climbs, and the list is out the window.

Hello Charlie Brown, nice to meet you

I'm a good listener I think, but am not good at this verbal validating stuff. I cannot tell you how many times I've prepared for a discussion, a few times I went as far as writing out a list for myself, and then once the talk starts, everything I thought of saying is blown out of my mind. I'm planning to do that uh huh stuff more when my mind goes blank!

My H told me that if he knows he is going to have a discussion, he tries to think of every conceivable response. Is that sort of what you do?