It'll take a while for the obsession to fade, as in months maybe, she attached to tat-boy and his life, it brought her "something" that filled a void in her. It'll take time unwinding...maybe look up some info on what goes on when the "affair" ends...I would bet a very similar dynamic to what your W is going through right now.
For whatever reasons, they don't like being alone with us during this, maybe because we reflect something back to them about themselves that they don't like or is uncomfortable, or who knows...my W a couple weeks ago told me she doesn't like how SHE is around me, after a school awards ceremony for our youngest...Part of the journey, and only they can figure out the whats and whys and how to overcome it. It svcks, and hurts, but we just need to keep working on ourselves right now and let them figure out themselves.
So you have the boat looking good? I spent most of my life in the TC, so I know that feeling of "snow gone, water ice-free"... T^2
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
