You ARE strong Portia, but learning to rely on yourself when you feel down must have been REALLY difficult. I admire you so much for that. Is there anything in particular you have found that lifts your spirits?

I think my H really does plan to change his mom's cabinets; they went shopping to look at what's out there. If he goes, I'll follow your advice and try to stick to no contact while he's away, as I agree it would be great for me to step away from the insanity living with a MLCer can bring. I'll get to see all the new different craziness living without our MLCer brings smile It must be just as hard, just in a different way. I apologize ahead of time for the whiny anxious mess I'll be!

When was your BD? Your SO doesn't have a girlfriend now, does he? I know you feel that you are moving forward at a snail's pace, my friend, but you ARE moving forward, that's the important thing. Even 2 steps forward, 1 step backwards keeps us moving in the right direction!