Hey uR! I am doing okay. Haven't been on here much because nothing really new happening. That is, until tomorrow. I think we are telling the girls tomorrow that W is leaving. PLEASE SAY A PRAYER FOR ME AND MY GIRLS. W still seems set on D once she moves out.
We will also tell all of the family in the next few days. None of them know yet. Talk about a shock. They will all be as blindsided as I was.
I have been feeling a little better recently but the next two weeks are going to be awful. Telling kids and family this week and she moves out next weekend.
Thanks for checking on me Ur.
Grizz, I wish you my best. Just a quick reminder to avoid talking to friends and family about your sitch beyond just the basics. They are going to want to hear all the sordid details and being friends and family, will want to jump into the middle of things. This just puts pressure on the WAS from all kinds of different angles and they will lay ALL the blame for this on the LBS. They will see it as the LBS rallying everyone against them. Personally my line to everyone was "we both need time and space apart to try and decide what we want for the future." That statement let people know we were having marital problems, but it did it in a way that didn't assign blame to my W. And if they pressed for more, I would just say things like "regardless of what happens, our goal is to be the best parents possible and to remain friends throughout." I never talked bad about my W and never assigned any blame to her. Keep in mind, ANYTHING you tell others WILL get right back to your W, so whatever you tell them should be something you would tell them even if your W was standing right next to them.
