I do trust it T, that's what scares me! I feel like I'm waiting for the other shoe to drop...
And yes, naps rule! Sometimes there is nothing like a good nap
Soooo....
H on my nerves with his texting, there's definitely been a surge in the past few days. I try to steer clear of him because I simply can't stand it.
His parents came over this evening for dinner and to visit boys. Now this is interesting...
Every summer, H's sister comes to visit with her kids. We all go and do fun family things together.
MIL tells us the dates she is coming in, and guess when they are? Bingo! His golf trip!
As soon as she said the dates, I could feel H look at me. I think he wanted to see my reaction. I didn't look at him, just kept chatting with MIL.
He did not say anything about his trip. I think he was waiting to see if I did. I thought, no way buddy! YOU can look your family in the eyes and lie to them. I am not making this any easier on you.
Even after they left, he didn't say one word about it. Still no mention of our anniversary either. Things are getting interesting...
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I was reading an old thread by Snodderly on why they run away (in MLC resources thread). On page 8, there is a post by Juice248. I found it absolutely fascinating.
Her H was in the midst of MLC, but her brother had already made it through one. The whole process for her brother took five years, and she even breaks down how he explained he was feeling and what he was thinking during this time.
What I find very interesting is that while the timeline is not the same, the thoughts/feelings (stages ) are very similar to what I have seen in my H. Looking back, there were changes in him already beginning when our youngest was born three years ago. Slow, gradual changes.
Juice says, "Anyways... In talking with my brother now. He says that he really does not remember a lot of the things SIL had told him he said to her. He said the confusion caused him a lot of anger... He just couldn't seem to handle anything at all."
Yep. Sound familiar?
"When he was at home, he thought of OW. When he was with the OW, he thought of the family constantly. He always wondered what they were doing."
I could absolutely believe this.
"He thought he was losing his mind. He couldn't understand why he couldn't make a decision. Everything was so hard. He just wanted everyone to leave him alone."
Absolutely believe this too.
Look up this thread, it is definitely worth reading, there is a lot of info. Great insight.
Doing my best to continue to give my H space to work this out and figure it out ON HIS OWN. Should be interesting with OW continually yapping at him!
Good night!
Bomb January 2012 - doesn't feel the same about me
~ "There is nothing love cannot face; there is no limit to its faith, hope, and endurance."
