Hey C, so glad you had a great time with your son. What good memories you are making with him.
Just wanted to say that the detaching should not be only if she is in contact with om. It should be because it is healthier for you. The thing is that you were having expectations. You were wondering, if you got along so well these past few weeks, why cant she work on the marriage. And it makes it difficult for you.
And detaching is also for her. To allow her space to work out her stuff and to show you heard her.