Wild Horses (couldn't drag me away)

[AJM]

So I wonder why your W takes so many pics, and seems to enjoy looking at them?

It's also interesting that she seems to take pics every time she goes out. I understand special occasions or events, but it's a little odd to chronicle every time you step foot out the door to go to a bar or restaurant. It's almost as if she wants to capture every moment - but again, why?

I'm not sure I see the oddity in this? Somebody who feels "disconnected" and "lost" and "forgetful" of things would do this quite often, wouldn't they? As a way to see their life and gain perspective?

W has been opening up to others, where in the past she normally avoided social interactions whenever possible. Any thoughts on this?

Seems normal to me. Might seem odd to you because she is struggling to put her life together (back together) after the "explosion". It seems pretty normal to me that somebody who went one direction to the extreme would go the other with fervor seeking "balance" of some sort.

Just because she's angry doesn't mean she knows why nor intends to stay that way. Walking away from old friends, family, etc. Seems to me she would eventually want to reconnect with that part of her life in a different and non-threatening way.

I recall my ex genuinely not understanding why people were angry with her or thought she was nuts. She couldn't see it. By the things she tries to do and say toward me, I'd say she is still grappling with that and seeks to "create" reasons to explain it. I think somebody trying to reconnect with people they walked away from is a natural way to heal. I also think a MLCr doesn't realize the extent of the damage nor the time that has passed while they were "gone" and panicked.

Being concerned about somebody else (trying to fix?) also shifts the focus from oneself, so that seems expected to me as well.

I suspect all people want to be whole and healed. How they go about it can be very "odd" to many of us but it's their way of healing themselves. Without guidance.

Peace,
AJ