New here, and need some advice

[labug]

So I read this post and thought I'd respond, I skimmed back through several pages so am somewhat up to speed.

I don't think she's being confusing. She said: she said she's going through tons of emotions, one day she's angry to see me but is upset when she doesn't because she misses me. She feels like she still isn't getting space on one hand but on the other it's a lot of space. I'm so confused

It seems to me that we the LBS, contribute to our confusion by being too attached to the emotions of the WAS. That's why detaching is so important. When the WA is in a needy place we think we are needed and we feel good. When the WA mood changes to pushing us away we are sad because we no longer feel needed or wanted. It's not the WA who is causing us to be confused, we are allowing it. There's a lot of stuff you can read about distancer-pursuer dynamic but I think in this case she is taking baby steps away from you. She's not ready to let go completely because it's scary out there.

It's up to you how you respond to that.