So, just dropping by to note that I think I'm dealing with something much more complicated then a MLC or communication issues... My C had mentioned many months ago that what I was describing in my H's behavior sounded like it could possibly be a BPD. I've kept that nugget of information in the back of my head and have just monitored and journaled my way through the last couple months.
I'm very much convinced, and my C who is also doing IC with my H, has again mentioned this possibility. Too early to truly diagnose but the patterns are all there. Honestly, I've been doing a lot of research and reached out to other groups for BPD and I am very very overwhelmed and depressed at the thought of my H having a true mental disorder which causes the irrational behavior. And I'm not sure I can choose this path for the rest of my life.
I have made a promise to myself that I will work on this as long as he continues with therapy. This could very well be much bigger than anything DB can help with...
