Keep posting here. I did want to make a couple comments here, right now.
You mention having hope to run with D one day in the future. You actually said you are PREPARING to do so. Is that realistic? Is her progress good that she COULD walk and run, again?
Also, you mention that you used to think feel a victim and now you are just better than him. Interesting that, because the emotional context of both remains the same. Anger. You might want to look into that and see how you can adjust that frame.
You mention how you want him to see what you have to deal with, regarding taking care of D. If your H is MLC... and even if he's not... I think it's a really good idea for you to let go of the idea that you need to "teach" him anything or that he actually need to "learn".
Yes, it's tough for you. Everyone would probably learn a great lesson to know what it's like to have to take care of someone in a way you need to take care of D. But expecting your H to learn the lesson you WANT him to learn, is likely futile. He might learn SOMETHING... but it could be quite different than what you'd think.
Anyhow, that's all I have for now, based on your other thread. You've got some great support in this one, so I may not have anything to add here.
