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Im just a little confused on how to deal with the wedding anniversary the 10th of june. Last year she was the first to say something and I was just going to wait for her. but the person i am has always done something very nice. this will be the 2nd one we have been separated on. just [censored] but just want to do the good thing if there is suck a thing......

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I guess you were an anniversary would be tough to deal with. However typically anniversaries are meant as a celebration. So I would play the wait-and-see. Only respond if the wife makes first contact.

If you make the first move then you're going to have expectations of some kind a reciprocation. If you don't get any then you would just build up resentment.


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I guess you were an anniversary would be tough to deal with. However typically anniversaries are meant as a celebration. So I would play the wait-and-see. Only respond if the wife makes first contact.

If you make the first move then you're going to have expectations of some kind a reciprocation. If you don't get any then you would just build up resentment.



Good point. I did not see or look at it that way. But you guys/Gals see how i ahve been and see things better than i do from the inside. I honestly did not think if it that way..

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OK i am all moved out and moved in with dad. OMG I cant take it. eyes are burning throught is soar head killing me from smell.

I waas going to try to buy but you know what i cant do this no effin way. I will try to stay put for 1 month thats it but can tell you know it may be less far far less.

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omg i cant do this. i just can not do this. I m staying with my dad and already feel the health getting worse. Head killing me from smoke smell. Eyes are etchy everything smell so effin dark gloomy. I told eveyone this is what was going to happen and it is the first night. i have to get the f out of here like in the next week for get buying i do not care.

All i can think is how this is all not good for me and my health. mentally and physicaly.

I also just think well the wife has the upper hand on this now, she has someone in her life (i do not) she has her own place ( I dont). WTF does it get any better. cause it just seems to be getting worse for me. Yup depresstion not going to get better now.

OK i have to go get the hell out out here for a little. get freash air. i am sitting here and crying as i type im done done done done done

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OK well I did it good or bad. It was killing me to know where the hell my W moved too. so I hired a PI and they found it out. Im not sure what im going to do about it. it was not a place you could see from the road. It is way way back so the PI could not confirm who she is living with but the last know address for her girl friend was this one and started in april. so she has to be living with her. If it is what i can see from google maps then it looks nice and has a in-ground pool. It is the middle of a apple orcard. this is just more way out of the way moving for her. just odd for my W but if she is gay then maybe she is hiding it. i have no idea, not even sure how i feel about it. I mean maybe it is something stupid like i want to make sue i have better stuff then her and she will be jelous and come back.,

OK i am stupid and crazy but i just need to really know if she is Gay or not

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Well i was good there for a day or 2 i think, or i felt ok. But i think what it is not is I now live with my dad for now. This had been a bad bad time to come here. I should have never did it. but i guess i can move again .

I need to do something or i need to figure out what is motivating me to do and think the way i am. I need to stop this crap. I just cant stop thinking of W and her maybe being Gay ok im a guy it kinda turns me on and wish she talked to me about it. but i was also told that they do not think W was this way when she walked out.

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Think with big head...


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I get that. I am trying so had o be good think good but I just cant do it at this point.

Im feeling so sick 2nd night in house with dad and my deprestion is even worse. i just want to die i realy do. what the is the point. i feel like i have nothing to live for nothing to do. i smell like smoke and old man. is this the life that is mine.

I cant stay here my sinus is all messed up i just cant do it. what is the point im sorry. i am trying every ones advice but it is not helping me. i go out side and i talk to others and someone said i smell like smoke. even if i was mentally ready how the hell could i even go on a date like this

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yup im done i had it im sorry if me saying these things here are not good but i have nothing. no home no friends i smeel bad like smoke from my dads house. I want to buy a house but need to get out of here first.

this is just so messed up guy/gals. Why did God let this happen to me. I try to do what is good but yet i still get crap. I just feel that the W has is now living the life and im the one who go [censored] on by her. I love her but i hate her too. stupid Gay friend of hers. I know she did this had a big part in what she is doing.

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