Hugs to you NLW. I cant say anything more in terms of advice. I support what the others have said about encouraging your kids to go and for you to go as well if you can. I too believe that in such situations, personal issues need to be put aside. I am here to support you.
TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home