I just wanted to add that sometimes it doesn't matter what you say or don't say, they could still lash out or be angry regardless.
During one of our big talks, H was mad at me and said things like "I don't want you to agree with me" and "I don't need you to show me empathy." He also told me I was being condescending when I was quiet and listened. Go figure.
I am reading and rereading your list though... You can never have too much practice at being a good listener!
Hope the gardening is going well!
Bomb January 2012 - doesn't feel the same about me
~ "There is nothing love cannot face; there is no limit to its faith, hope, and endurance."
