I know there is a lot of mindreading going on here, but I don't really have much choice, especially with the TRO. I haven't communicated with my W directly since late January. I haven't talked to her face-to-face since she walked out. (We would make plans to talk face-to-face and she would postpone/cancel. I eventually gave up trying.) I was still reeling from the shock by the time we stopped talking, so we never had an adult conversation about it.
My W said the primary reason she left was the lack of emotional/physical intimacy. We had a SSM. She also said all the WAS script (I feel dead inside, it's not fixable, it's too late). I don't know if there were other reasons. She said there was no one else, but what instigated her walking out was an inappropriate text message I found on her phone and me freaking out. I had always thought than A would be an absolute dealbreaker, but after I cooled down, I was willing try to reconcile. She said it was just inappropriate joking.
In regards to my GI issue, my W said it was an issue. I had seen a GI doc a few weeks/month prior to the BD, but they couldn't find anything. It wasn't until I lost weight (thanks to the BD) that the issue went way.
In regards to the third-party troublemaker, he claimed that he saw her full (married) name on her nametag and asked if she was one of my (recently deceased) dad's daughters. She said no, I'm Lefty's ex-wife. He said that was the extent of it. She said he went off on her (loudly and causing a scene) saying things like "Hasn't that poor family been through enough," etc. The following day the acquaintance went by her place of business, complained to her manager about her, closed his personal/business accounts.
After I found out about this through my FiL, I told the acquaintance he really made a big mess for me and asked him to just mind his own business. That day or the next day the third-party called the manager and ranted about my W again even though I begged him to let it go. This is a person who I never hung out with outside of his business context and I'm 99% sure my dad never did either. Given his repeated interference after I begged him not to, I tend to believe her side of the story.
Yes, I agree nobody is talking to each other, and thanks to the TRO, it looks like it will remain that way until the D is done (at the very least).
The ironic thing is I knew things had been bad between my W and I for a while and I was planning on making an effort to make a fresh start on the new year and try to make things up to her. C'est la vie.
