My world got turned upside down

[BrightFuture]

I didn’t get from your posts, did you H moved in with OW? One thing is having the R with OW, and another thing is moving in with her. Does he have the kids all the time with her? I just cannot imagine that your H would want to start over with the young kinds in his age. I think you need to give it some time. I’m sure he will re-examine his “happiness” after the reality will settle in.

You should not feel bad about yourself because your H chose to get involved with OW. It is not your fault. Don’t listen to his spews. I totally understand how you feel. You will go through a lot of emotions, but it will get better. NC is for you, not for him. After you feel stronger, you can resume the communication, so your H would be able to see the changes in you.

Advina gave you a good advice. Take one day a time. Be happy, pleasant, and no pressure. OW is going to put a lot of pressure on him eventually (goodness, with 2 young kids in diapers.) I know it is difficult right now, but you need to behave “as if” you are not affected by this. You are your own person and your life doesn’t depend on what your H does with his.