I wanted to ask you about one of your "not so goods," the lack of physical contact.
I think both our DB coaches suggested trying a bit of casual touching. I was wondering if you'd tried this and your W's response.
In the 2 weeks since my DB session, I've tried touching my H on the arm or back every 2 or 3 days. He touched my arm back 3 times, touched my arm once without me initiating it once, said "heeeyyyy" disapprovingly once, and ignored the other attempts. Not such stellar results. Did you do better?
No, I did not do any better. I touched her shoulder twice with no response. Tickled her foot once and she pulled it away and kinda smiled. And I put my hand on the middle of her back once and she arched forward ever so slightly. No comments from either of us.
I do know this: we test/try, but if the response is not favorable we need to back off/give space.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
