Left Behind Husband on the Left Coast II

[MrBond]

There is ALOT of mindreading going on on your part. What did your W tell you was the reason she left?

"I believe the issues she had with me were my emotional and physical withdrawal and my difficulty in providing (though she repeatedly denied this while we were together)."

YOU Believe? You can't keep mindreading her like that. If she said that wasn't it, then maybe there was another reason, but because you made up your mind that that was the reason, she stopped trying to deny it because you wouldn't listen.

"I also was suffering from a gastrointestinal issue (since resolved) that made me unpleasant to be around at times."

Again, she didn't tell you this. You are saying this.

"She had training in DV prevention and worked at the local shelter. I think this colors her perceptions sometimes."

Again, you're guessing. She never told you why.

"A few weeks later, an acquaintance of the family apparently made a scene (multiple times) at her current place of employment. She filed the TRO after that, saying I had sent him. Not true. "

What did the person do? I can see how she feels threatened because it seems like there are plenty of assumptions on both your parts but no one really TALKING to each other.