things went south

[MrBond]

"Then we got that text Monday night from OMW and W reverts back to "things aren't going well, I'm still not attracted to you". Its almost like she's running away because of possible guilt and fear."

It's a little of that AND the fact that you confronted her about it. You seem to pass it off like it wasn't a big deal, when it's big to her. She's still in the phase of not knowing what she wants. So she's trying any option EXCEPT one that includes you.You are going to have to hold off on accusing her or confronting her about anything because that's when her guard shoots back up again.

"It reminds me of time of BD. I found out she had kissed another man, a week later I suspected it was our mutual friend so I asked her. She denied it but immediately told me her feelings for me had changed. Then a week later when I caught her texting him and found our it actually was our mutual friend she immediately gave me the ILYBINILWY speech and said she thought we should separate."

It's the same thing here. You have to get her to "trust" you again which means making herself vulnerable. Once she feels comfortable with you again, she'll open up.

"Haven't had any serious talk with W since Monday night when I told her "to go"."

And that's why her shields shot back up.

"She asks me how I am, if there's anything should could do for me, asks me for a hug etc."

Don't do it. She's temperature checking. Be strong.

"At this point she may be checked out but I'm not sure."

It doesn't sound like it, but she's trying to get a reaction from you to be sure that YOU are still there.

"I'm not sure if I should have the talk with her about what she wants now or if I should give it more time."

Don't think of it as giving her time. Just live your life.

"She doesn't think W has tried hard enough and we should give it more time. I'm not sure how much of that she's saying to my W."

Be careful about this. The WAS will usually have alot of things to say to make the LBS look like a horrible person to anyone who listens.

"W is now at her sisters all weekend. Her 30 year old sister who just left her husband because she just wasn't attracted to him anymore. UGGHHH."

There's nothing you can do about this. Just continue to act like the best father possible and SHOW your W you're not the man she thought or thinks you are.