Thanks for the giggle adinva.. I am trying so hard to just breathe. I don't know if I had mentioned it or not but he said that he was" finally happy and it was about time." Was this spewage and being hateful?? SFC had said they will refuse to remember any happy times. When he texts me and is seeking what I think is maybe comfort like-- oh my back hurts or what can I take for a headache -- I soooo very much want to say--- hey call the junkie but of course I don't. And in the back of my mind I think-- not being snarky right now truly serious--can he even have stuff like Motrin around if she used to be addicted to pain killers and such. My mind is on overload I think today. Well not just today but you all know what I mean. i am going to go do some reading on the site and work on breathing. Thank you all so much.