I agree, don't go to MC unless you both are going for positive reasons. I took/dragged my W to 1 session. All the session was is about how I did wrong, what the W must do for any form of reconciliation and showed how hard it all is. You can imagine the W literally bolting from the session once it finished. I continued to go to MC by myself, as it was a great form of comfort,grief and understanding. Spend your money on the DB coach, rather than the MC. I truly believe it will be in your favour.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
