W and I separated 6 months and currently co-parenting.
So after db for few months my waw is starting to take it to another level. A few weeks I was told she wanted to sell the house. I said that if that's what she wanted to do then we should talk about it and maybe wait a few months so as to make sure we don't impact on the boys schooling.
The following week when I asked my son what he did on the weekend with mum and he dropped that he went looking for houses to buy with W and her parents. I wasn't spying it was just a standard question I ask.
I spoke to W about it and asked if she planning to do it sooner rather than later. She said she was just looking for the time being. I mentioned that if she wants to sell the house that I would consider buying her out and if that's what she wanted it would take a little paperwork and time.
The following week she put forward her proposal to move suburbs and take the boys to a new school and change our parenting agreement so that I only get to see the boys every second weekend. She said that she wasn't trying to take the boys away from me and that she thought its what's best for our sons. Main reason is that she would be close to her parents so that could help pick up the boys after school, which is something we are both doing at then moment. I stayed calm and stated that this was I big proposal and that we need to talk these things through together and consider all the options we have. I listened to her and validated and the conversation ended amicably.
Yesterday she informed that she is going to an house auction this morning to potentially buy a house. Her parents are putting up the money for the deposit but she still owns a property with me.
So after months of giving her time and space and leaving her alone, being friendly and gal and pma, it has come to this. I may lose my 50% custody of the boys. I am not sure What has happened with my W for her take such a radical stance. I suspect there is a lot of resentment against me and that her parents recognise she is not happy and by taking me out of the picture even more than can help her be happy. It's out of character for her but the worst part is that it's now involving the children.
I love my sons, I am a great father. I don't want to just let the go but in afraid that the courts will give her the custody she wants, it's what happens here in Australia.
I will see her in a few hours time. I am praying for strength, love and compassion but mostly I am praying that I get to retain my current custody of the boys.
What did I do wrong?
Me - 37 W - 37 M -5 T - 15
S=5 S=3
Seperated - 12/12 BD - 20/03/13 Still seperated - no R or M talk yet.
