Riding the storm out, or at least trying to!

[RosaLinda]

Hey TVS, I've been thinking of you, and watching for you to post on your old thread! And here you were on your new thread the whole time, duh!

"I guess if we think of their behavior in terms of acting like a teenager, it makes some sense. Wanting that approval from "mom", but caring more about their peer's approval.

And Raine, there may very well be times where he wants me to say no to something. Sorry, but that is not my place. I'm not going to make his decisions for him, and he's not going to use me as an excuse for something he doesn't want to do. He needs to learn to speak up for himself and say no. I really hope that he will."

That's interesting. How do you think your H would react if you DID say no to something, for example, spending time with his "out of town friend" tonight? There was a time right after my H's 2 week long PA that I felt as if he was trying his hardest to push me into kicking him out. I felt as if he could not make the decision to go on his own, and wanted to make me the "bad guy" to give him an excuse for leaving. Sometimes I wonder if it might have been the best thing for us.

"Before yoga, H was tired but nice. We ate dinner as a family. I noticed him checking me out a few times.

After yoga, seems a switch was flipped. He was in a bad mood. Didn't even look at me. Finally speaks to me, and asks if it would be okay if he met a friend who is in town for a week on Friday. He said he knows that's my yoga night, but that maybe I could have my parents watch boys since they always offer. I told him I would ask them.

I'm guessing OW wants to see him Friday, and he was stressing about it. Doing my best to get out of the way...

Pressure keeps building, he keeps not sleeping, health issues worsening..."

My H does this too, I HATE it, I feel like I'm living with a psych patient whose mood might flip from happy to nasty to friendly to cranky in a heartbeat. Well....I guess living with a MLCer IS sort of living with a psych patient. Especially when they have a lot of chronic health problems like your H does. So did you find someone to watch the kids so you can go to yoga? Is he planning to wear his new golf shirt when he's out with his friend (wink wink) tonight?

"And truth be told, I have perfected sneaking a peek at him out of the corner of my eye while putting on my eye make-up. Don't try this at home kids! Lol!!!

I also sometimes experiment to see if he checks me out...

I'll purposely wear a pair of undies that make my butt look particularly good, then change out of my pj pants in front of him. (Of course acting like he's not even there)

And somebody most certainly seems to notice "

Hot stuff! You go, girl!